Asexuality
Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction for other people. It is usually considered rare, but I feel we need to mention it here as differences in sexuality, asexual and otherwise, appear to be more common in the ASD community.
A good brief summary of asexuality is available at http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/question/asexuality.
If you have any feeling that you might be asexual or otherwise disinterested in sexual activity, I encourage you to read all that you can find on asexuality. Get to know yourself and your limits, and be firm about what you will and will not do.
If you currently have a partner it's very important you discuss this with them so they learn your likes and dislikes and respect them. If they don't accept that you don't want to do certain activities, move on and find someone who will respect you. Remember that saying 'no' to a sexual activity has the weight of the law behind it.
A final note about asexuality, it might be prudent to discuss medication side effects with your doctor or have the appropriate hormones checked before deciding you are asexual. This step is especially important if the change in sexuality has been sudden or is making you unhappy.
I am a proud asexual, feel free to identify yourselves in comments :D
It's nice to hear someone validate what many of us have felt all along. Too many people, including clinical professionals discount asexuality as a genuine possibility. Maybe some of us just have our love wiring hooked into our special interests. Passion has many forms, after all.
Interesting, I have noticed that while most professionals do not accept asexuality, a few sites that discuss "low-drive" include the autism spectrum as a possible cause. It's so common among us that it's unavoidable.
I'm a little too sexual for that, but I totally support you guys! I love my asexual friends!
Savannah Nicole Logsdon-Breakstone Director of Advocacy 
I am definitely asexual. I was so excited to learn about this last year as I thought I was the only one. This is wild! I heard even Paula Poundstone came out as asexual! I'm glad I am not the only one and I hope professionals start recognizing this as a sexual orientation just like any other.
Thanks, Savannah. Love you back, just not carnally
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I am not asexual, but I am very seldom find other people attractive. I am sexually active though, and I do have 2 steady partners..so I don't think I probably count.
Prolly not Olive, but you can still join me as an Ally of our "A" friends!
Savannah Nicole Logsdon-Breakstone Director of Advocacy
I'm not sure if this is me or not... I've never really wanted to have sex with anyone (I haven't even kissed a guy yet).
I think I'm grossed out by the idea of being that close to someone else physically.
Saying that though, I still find certian guys "attractive" in terms of their looks - maybe more someting to be admired than slept with.
I'm not sure if maybe part of the reason is that I'm so definite about not having sex before marriage (just how I was raised) and haven't found the right guy. But there is a guy I really like at the moment and would like to be in a relationship with him, I'm just not sure I want kissing and sex and all of that stuff with it. I want the mental side of the relationship and maybe hugs too, but I don't know exactly why I'm not keen on the other stuff. He's good looking enough, is it weird not to think about having sex with a guy who you think is good looking and you would like to be in a relationship with?
Regardless - I'm quite happy not having sex for the moment (actually I think I'm happier with that than if I was sexually active).
Hi there - I'm not asexual (just a big ol' queer 
), but I do agree that there seems to be a higher incidence of non-heteronormative identities in the ASD community. I wonder if any formal studies have been done?
Much platonic love to you all!
non-heteronormative? That one i hadn't heard before <grin>
When i am sexual now its great but sometimes i can just shut it down. I miss it though. Like now.
Cyber hugs!!
I'm not sure if I'm asexual but I am rarely attracted to anyone enough to do something about it, especially since it causes me a great deal of stress to pursue them. If I'm pursued, 99% of the time I refuse because other things I am doing seem more important.
Unfortunately, people have started to wonder about me, as I've spent too long without a boyfriend and I don't go on dates. I get slightly irked when some say I'm too picky when in reality I don't get asked out often, and I'm not honestly attracted to anyone, which is not something I can control.
Lately I've thought about the idea of finding a partner, but for practical reasons, like having someone to accompany me to the grocery store, or allaying family fears that I'll be an old maid. I don't want to settle just yet for someone I'm not really attracted to though, so I will have to go on lots of dates, and try to explain to neurotypicals why I'm so damn methodical about it.
On the plus side, I'm less likely to be led by my emotions into an unhealthy relationship, because even if I was head over heels attracted to someone, if it's not worth it, it's easier for me to leave.
At about sixteen, I thought I was asexual. Then I met Al, and dear god, my libido has never recovered. Sometimes I wish were asexual, though, because (as many of you must know) it is especially hard to meet and maintain relationships when you're a woman with ASD! That's why I'm an advocate for vibrators. I think every woman (well, most of us) should have one, especially for those of us with social difficulties (autism). At first I was embarassed, but now I'm not at all. It feels good, it's healthy, and it's totally liberating.
And they come in cute colors... And are just down-right hilarious.
If it works for you, that's great. 
Vibrators (and other penetrative-type toys) just don't do it for me. Sorry. I find them painful and.. well, if I wanted one of those, I would've gotten myself a man! hehehehe
Given how little I experience any sexual attraction or desires, I'm pretty sure I'm asexual. Asexual most of the time, and bi for the teeny tiny moments (like, a few seconds) that I have any sexual attraction. It doesn't really last very long.
It hasn't kept me from finding a significant other though; we just based our relationship on friendship, similar interest, mutually enjoying each other's company, and the ability to never really run out of things to discuss. (hint: he's a Film major with interests in sci-fi, and I'm an English major and fantasy writer with interests in film.)
The tricky part is that eventually, I want to be a mother. While it'll be cool to adopt, I also want a biological child, but with asexuality.... well, I try not to think about it, figuring that when the time comes, I won't be alone in making any decisions. I'm not exactly in a position to raise children anyways, so it's something for the future.
I just know I wanna be a mom. Disabled, Autistic, NT... there are sometimes where I'm walking along and I feel a little hand in mind, and I think of all the moms I know online, and I think, yeah, all the snotty noses and dirty diapers and little sleep and everything is tough, but to watch a precious child grow up and blossom, that'll be wonderful.
Anyways, I'm tangenting. Yes, I strongly believe myself to be asexual.
More or less asexual and romantically attracted to women here.
Does anyone else feel slightly guilty re being asexual, given disability activists have been fighting the "people with disabilities are asexual" stereotype for years?
Paula Poundstone? I did not know that, I thought she was gay or something. Anyway, ppl think I am a freak because I am asexual AND aromantic! What is wrong w/ me not wanting a guy? DAMN! I want a support group that I can go to in person to validate that I am ok! :(
I am not asexual, but certainly low sex drive. It just seems like something I might want to do every year or so. I don't like all of the sensations and smells and expectations of what I should and shouldn't do. Unfortunately, I'm married to someone who thinks it would be normal to do it every night. At least he gives me a break when I'm on my period. I say no as much as I can without hurting the health of the relationship, but men (well my husband for sure) start to shut down from the relationship emotionally if they aren't getting some. So its kinda like coersion/rape about 10 times a month, for the rest of my life.
My advice is to know yourself well before you get married. I didn't have a good idea of what was wrong with me, and I got married to escape my parents. Now I am forced to endure.
Have people seen this? Blog carnival about autism and asexuality. Accepting posts until Jan 31, 2011.
http://writingfromfactorx.wordpress.com/2010/12/11/call-for-participatio...
I believe that I might be Asexual but I am not sure. i am attracted to guys but In a more romantic type of my some time I do have Fantasies of having sex with the guys I like but I doubt i would ever want the fantasies to play out in real life.
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I did forget a point: Being asexual does not mean that the individual has a lack of romantic feelings, many asexual people have romantic feelings and the need for emotional connection as strongly as any other person would.
There are some asexual people who do not experience romantic feelings, they generally refer to themselves as aromantic. I don't think being aromantic is limited to the asexuality community, there are likely sexual people who are aromantic. Separating sexual and romantic attraction is a concept that could be useful to everyone regardless of orientation.
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