husband back to yelling at me and insulting me again.
He woke up Monday morning and was a grouch from hell. He is yelling at me for everything, and insulting me. If I don't understand what he said, or something, he yells at me and calls me stupid. I am so angry at him and frustersted that I have no one to talk to or to help me through difficult times. He is never there for me when I need it. I feel like we are speaking two different languages, and no matter what I say to him, he doesn't understand what I am saying and yells at me. If I try to talk to him about anything, he yells at me to "shut up" becasue he is trying to watch his show, is on the computer, etc. He is getting very verbally mean. I just feel like laying down, going to sleep and ignoring everything. There is no break from all of this. There is no escape from it all. why are people so mean, especially those that are supposed to be there for you?
Genisa,
I worry about your husband yelling at you so much. I know this must be very difficult for you to process when the stress escalates.
I can understand that feeling oh too well... it is very stressful and I hope you are able to find a way to communicate and resolve things if they can be resolved.
Darn double post... eep.
It is just frusterating when you feel all alone, and even the one that is the closest to you, your spouse, isn't connecting at all.
I so understand, even sometimes now I feel that way with my boyfriend, but it was even worse when I was with the father of my sons. :(
Genisa,
Is the emotional abuse still going on? When and how did it start? Are you safe?
I just read this post, so I am concerned.
-Eileen.
He has eased up on his yelling at me, thank goodness. He has always been like this. What I don't like is that he starts yelling at me if I as him to help out with the house chores. He does as little as he can get away with, and I can't keep up with the rest all by myself. Jaden helps out a little, but Tayler refuses to do anything, and tests every limit. That's a 4 year old for you. He also gets angry at me for making him have to deal with the kids alot when I need to rest and take a nap. He says that no one sleeps that much. I am sooo tired. I don't sleep well. I wake up at least once an hour or more due to several things. It is hard for me to go to bed and fall asleep if something is bothering me. My husband is able to get enough rest and stay awake, somewhat after 5 hours of sleep, but he gets really grouchy. I need alot more than that, concidering that I wake up so often throughout the night. Drinking caffienated pop is the only way I can function. I roller bladed 2 miles yesterday with our Cub Scout Pack(the kids all rode bikes, and the adults all walked). My feet hurt so much afterwards, that I fell asleep as soon as I got home( also had no sleep the night before. worrying about if I have everything I need ready for the next day, etc) I do admit that I am laying in bed alot, but I am exhausted come morning. Even minor things like going to a meeting, or out anywhere there are people, I am worn out afterwards, even into the next day. I'm not just laying in bed avoiding things, which is what my husband thinks, I am trying to get some sleep, which is very hard with the kids coming in and bugging me, etc. I don't think I have slept more than 2 hours straight in years. I don't like meds that assist in sleeping, because when I have a horrible night mare, I can't wake myself up from that.
This situation sounds dreadful, it truly is emotional abuse, i'm not surprised you're not sleeping well! It would be a dreadful situation for anyone, but especially those on the spectrum. I truly feel you need some help or counselling or something. Something to give him a wakeup call as to what he is doing to you.
My utmost sympathy, i have been in an emotionally abusive relationship too, i know how horrible it can be, and how hard it can be to get your head clear and see exactly what's happening.
now he is trying to start arguments over everything and anything. I simplly asked him to help me with some of the house work, as no one has done anything in the last 5 days. Me included. I had started to do some picking up an sweeping when I asked him to help out.that is when he started yelling again. It must have something to do with too much testosterone and only sex will lower that. I haven't been able to do that activiety for about month due to a medical issue. anyway... He starts yelling at me when I try to discuss anything with him probably trying to shut me up, but I wont, and I wont raise my voice,as I don't feel any anger, and the only time I yell is if I feel angry and frusterated. Right now he is arguing with himself outside. I wonder what the neighbors think? I am just so tired of it. I cant talk to him about anything. If I have a difficult day, I cant discuss it with him or expect any support or understanding at all. Right now, I have no more emotions to express. I don't feel happy, I don't feel sad,.I feel nothing.