I am fiercely independent. Good at helping others, not good at helping myself. I am frightened of telling my partner about owing money. At the moment I'm not working and he is. I feel I have to justify buying clothes for a growing daughter, or myself if something's worn out. I feel I have to justify my reasons for wanting  money. I say to partner often "I'm sorry this cost so much". I don't splurge on myself. 

I have just received two fines - one for speeding $270 or there abouts and one for $300 for being caught by a red light camera. I am TERRIFIED of telling my partner. He's not nasty or mean or anything but I'm so frightened of  his reaction that I can't pay the fines. He would see the withdrawal on the bank account and I have no other money. 

Any suggestions?