sons IEP meeting to initiate discussion on transition of placement
NOT looking forward to it. It is early in the Morning and I can't even think that early in the morning. I've had nothing but frusteration with our school district so far. I'm afraid that they won't do what is needed to help him succeed in the regular educational setting.
then I have to drive my 115 mile round trip to my Aspergers thearpist appt that is at 2:30.
when I get back from that, I have a very confrontational parents meeting for our Cub Scout pack. There are alot of issues and I really don't want to attend, However, I am the secretary and the Assistant CubMaster. I think I might be ill tomarrow evening(whether I am or not). Just thinking about it is makiing me ill. uggg. I would rather go to an IEP meeting that to go to this cubscouts parents meeting. ..........................................
Gosh, Genisa, you've got a lot on your plate.
I hope it goes down easy. I'll keep a good thought for you and your son. And if you don't make the cub scout meeting, I'm sure it'll be ok. Hey if you're sick, you're sick- even if you're just sick of acrimony.
Our Cub scout pack is a very disfunctional pack. there are some weblo issues( the weblos bridge up to boyscouts, and we are having issues whether money from our recent fundraiser will follow the 3 weblos scouts up to boyscouts, even though our pack is practally broke without the money. And I found out tonight that many of the parents are dissatisfied with the pack leadership( as in Cubmaster) I agreed to be her assistant becaues she is very disorganized, but I can't get her to work with me and get meetings set up for all of the leaders to plan the pack meetings. She is a wait to the last minute, then plan it all herself. She has her own issues, including raising 3 boys, one with Aspergers(a teen) and one with Autism(hyperlexic but alot of behavior issues and no attention span). I feel like I really don't have any roll in our pack, becasue it is so disorganized. Our cubmaster has all of the papers, leader info, etc, and I can't assist as I don't have that info. I feel usless. The other parents want to ask her to step down, and I dont' want to deal with it. I was hoping she would take my offering and nudging to help her plan it all out, but she doesn't seem motivated enough to do it. Right now, I'd rather eat a whole jar of jalepenos than go to this meeting. ( I like jalapenos, but not that much). I would rather sit and argue for extended year school services( which is like pulling teeth) than to go to this cubscout parents meeting. Why can't I take confrontation like others? How come it makes me completely non functionable, while others can trudge through it, forget it, and move on? I'm feeling down right now.
Genisa, what's unfortunate is that these parents can't organize themselves enough to deputize someone to speak one to one with the troop leader and share group concerns (kindly). It seems cruel to humiliate her or put her on the spot. I sure hope that doesn't happen.
I sent her an e-mail informing her of what has been said. I think it is only fair that she knows and that someone tell her. I will probably call her tomarrow. the other conflicting thing is that my husband wants to take her position as cubmaster. I couldn't even get him to do his duties as Den leader.
Just got done with the IEP meeting on the transition issue. We all decided that Jaden wouldn't be ready for the transition and it would be best to keep him at his level 3 school, and set up some extra things out of school time such as get him back into thearpy, get tutoring arranged etc. and get him involved in a play thearpy group that mixes him with NTs. Our concern is that he has a hard time in large group settings ( his class at his home school is 24. ) so right now our Family Services person is going to help us obtain needed services etc and find resources that are out there. This time, I feel good about the decision, as it isn't just a do nothing decision. It is still moving forward with correcting what is lacking in my sons current educational setting, but without such a drastic change for him. I like that.
Genisa, I'm glad the IEP meeting went well. I expect similar recommendations will be made for my son for next year. His current school isn't right for him, though. I sure hope these accommodations work well for your son!
Genisa, I'm so glad you emailed the troop leader and plan to call.
Now for the DREADED CUBSCOUT PACK MEETING..........................
Hi, Genisa. I'm glad you feel pretty good about how the Jaden meeting went today.
I know what you mean about confrontation, I hate it, too. I get all shaky, my voice goes up a half an octave, and I just want to puke. Then I feel drained afterwards. You've done your best, though by trying to help her organize so that this kind of thing didn't happen. Then, when it became inevitable, you gave her a heads-up, which was kind. I hope that even though it's an unpleasant situation, you can at least feel good about how you've conducted yourself.
At the meeting she let everyone know that she is having issues like break through depression and marriage issues. More or less, she is really struggling( when I talked with her before the meeting, she was doing all she could to hold it together( she knows that she can always talk to me becasue I understand as I have the clinical depression , attention deficit disorder and plenty of marriage issues.) I usually do quite well at blocking out others emotions and feellings, but I could feel her pain , which was very intense, and and I had to hold back the tears. She was able to find someone to take the position of committee chairperson, and this person is deterimined to help and make sure all of what needs to be done is done. What really bothers me is that my husband still has the attitude that he is going to take over her postion. that makes me so angry. His attitude is if she can't handle the job, to step down. He also believes that there is no such thing as depressive disorder, and it is just laziness, and all the severely depressed person has to do is "get over it". OOOOOOOh it makes me so angry. He also told me that I read about Aspergers, therefore, I believe I have it( even with the official diagnosis). He thinks that I "make up" any of my issues and use it as an excuse to be lazy, not do something, etc. I'm so tired of his BS.
Best wishes, Genisa! I will be thinking about you and hoping all goes well at both the IEP and that truly awful-sounding Cub Scouts meeting! Looking forward to a report about how it all went! Have a great therapy session! Mine is coming up in two days ... ahhh. My therapist is a sweetie. Can't wait.