Last week I was at a business dinner, which was fun, as I had, at last, a chance to sit toghether with one of the participants. She is from a different company, and we meet every month to work on an complex project. The meetings are intensive, and if you are lucky you can engage with a fellow member. Often there is no time for chit chat, and participants split quickly after the meeting to return to home.

Over time I noticed that she has definite aspi-traits: monotonic voice, she tends to see things black and white. A bit aloof, and little expression on her face. She is skinny, long straight hair, often lonely at coffee breaks. More than 20:20 vision. A degree in law, as a student supervised by a top magistrate.

Anyway, we got on quite well at dinner, but I noticed that she stares at me while talking, and I just stare back. We "lock" each others eyes, there is no looking away, and it goes on and on. I'm fine with that, but she is really the only person that I know with this habit.

After dinner we went to a bar with the group, and she sat next to me when the staring recommenced, until most of the group members left.

The next day I received funny questions, and I realized that people may have thought that there was something going on. Which was not the case! We just had a good time; too bad that the NT's in the room thought we had "inappropriate" eye contact.

So, inappropriate eye contact can take unexpected forms indeed!